How to determine how strong your relationship is
Have you ever been in a relationship that you thought was strong only to get dumped a few weeks later? What about the one where you are going strong, then take a break then get back together? Sometimes relationships get confusing, so the following are some tips for how to determine how strong your relationship is:
If you want to determine the strength of your relationship look at the love you have for each other. You want to ask yourself some big questions about your love. Do you love them more or less compared to the beginning of your relationship? Do they irritate you now, or do they do anything now that irritates you that did not before, like singing in the car? Do you care for each other? Ask yourself questions about all the aspects of your love. For example, do you love them only when it is convenient? Are you honest with yourself about how you feel about their short comings?
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Next, look at how dependent you are. One of the indicators of the strength of your relationship is if you can stand on your own two feet. Believe it or not the more dependent you are, the stronger your relationship probably is. If you are totally codependent you probably are making up for other failures in your relationship. Now it is important to recognize that some dependence is good, too much means that it makes no difference if the other partner is absent. That is not good. What is good is the ability to function if your partner is out of town, at work, etc.
Ask yourself and your partner about how committed you are, this is going to indicate a lot about how strong your relationship. Is your commitment real or is it like a sand castle and it will crumble the first time a wave hits? Have you ever had a fight? What were your feelings during the fight? How was it handled? Ask yourself these questions to measure your commitment.
Ask yourself about your relationship. You need to evaluate the relationship to know how strong it is. What are the pluses and minuses? How big of a deal are they? An attractive partner may be a big plus, but an annoying habit could cancel out the attractiveness fast. When you evaluate your relationship you have the opportunity to recognize strengths, and also to recognize your weaknesses.
Ask yourself what you are doing about the weaknesses in your relationship. Do you ignore them, or do you try to work on them? Part of judging the strength of a relationship is judging the weaknesses and judging whether or not you do anything to remedy weaknesses.
If you can do the above things you will have a pretty good idea of how strong your relationship is. You will be able to tell if you are in for trouble, or if you are going to make it after all. Although, just because at one point your relationship is strong does not mean it will always stay that way. The same holds true for if it is weak. There are things that can be done to change the strength of a relationship, so evaluate it periodically. Determine the strength often and look for cracks so they can be repaired before they turn into breaks in your relationship. When you determine the strength of your relationship you have the power to make needed changes, or to maintain the strength you have, or to let it go, it is up to you. Enjoy!
