First and foremost your relationship will not survive if there is not an initial chemistry or attraction. That spark or romance of first love is the foundation for a good relationship. You might grow to love someone, or be more and more attracted to them, but having that initial attraction is huge, even if it wears off before it grows to anything else.

Secondly there has to be a deep attraction to the person. Not only must you be attracted to the person, but they to you as well. If the person is not attracted to you, your relationship will not survive. If you asked a room full of people "What kind of partner would you like? What are the qualities that you go for?" You would get many answers. Some would want an intelligent partner. Some would want a smart partner. Some would want a partner with sense of humor. Some would be looking for maturity. However, each of these answers are the same, while everybody had different ideas about the partner they want, they all want someone they are attracted to. For one, intelligence is attractive, while humor is attractive to another. However, what is more important is that what you have to offer is attractive to that person. You may have the most intelligent, smart, good looking, successful, leader and a person with all the qualities you could dream of as your partner. But what if this person is not attracted towards you? Will your relationship survive? Of course not. So, to determine if your relationship will survive, determine if there is a mutual attraction toward one another that goes beyond just physical appearance.

Next, to determine if you have the kind of relationship that will survive, ask yourself what common interests you have. If you are strongly attracted towards your partner and if your partner is equally attracted towards you, you will survive in the relationship for a much longer time than you would otherwise, but there still has to be more than that. You have to be able to spend enjoyable time together. So, when the initial excitement of a new relationship, and the new challenges that go with a new relationship wear off, what will be left? Will you have things to talk about? Will you be able to do things together because you both enjoy them? Will you continue to find reasons to be attracted to one another? If you happen to share common interests and respect each other for your qualities, your attraction for each other will grow, and this will help your relationship to survive.
A relationship will survive if it has the following elements, so simply ask yourself if yours does and you will know if you have the kind of relationship that will survive:

1. Initial attraction.


2. A continued attraction.


3. Common interests that lead to further attraction.


4. Respect for one another, especially your differences.


5. Love.