A positive form of discipline can help raise the self-esteem and feelings or worth in children and adults. A leading goal would be to encourage a child to become the best that the child is capable of becoming.

Without discipline in a home or classroom, the little minds lean toward acts of base nature. These acts can become bad habits that could break down a person's beautiful side and build up the naughty side.

The pressures children have to face each day, require that they be armed with armor of good behavior, which is supported by knowing the rules. Next comes keeping the rules. When they are broken, children need to be reminded of the value of correct behavior. Not by beatings, but by loving conversations, explanations and consistency. If a child persists in the unacceptable behavior, then there need to be some type of disciplinary result. Disciplinary actions can come in different forms of consequences.

If children are not trained in good behavior, society could knock them down with bad behavior. Not being accepted in a club or a society can be the result of lack of training. Courtesy goes a long way in applying for a job or advancement. All in all, a person is rewarded or punished by their behaviors. In the movie My Fair Lady, Professor Higgins stated that it was Eliza's cockney speaking that kept her a poor flower girl. He proved his point teaching her good speaking methods. He proved his point.

We condemn our children by lack of discipline in exactly the same way. Others shun then or dislike them for the unmanageable behavior or talk.

Children who are not taught correct behaviors and discipline develop attitudes of arrogant and disobedient. There are many writers that state in agreement that the more disobedience a child has, the higher level of negative effects they will have in their lifetime. Parents who give guidelines and require a child comply feed the art of obedience.

Discipline does not mean that a child needs to be spanked. This creates an angry child that only appears to change to avoid spanking. The problem with this is that the actions will temporarily change purely due to the fear. They are not learning discipline from knowledge instead they are learning fear. The correct attitude is one of self-discipline and obedience in the child. Also teaching a child to be responsible for the consequences of their behavior and cause & effect.

Families fall apart when there is no discipline. Respect for parents disappears when children are not taught values and virtues. Parents have the greatest opportunity for input into the child's mind during the early years of their life. Parents can help protect the child from drugs, early pregnancy, diseases, abuse, and other adverse effects in their lives simply by empowering their children through discipline and love.

We should be firm in our rules. If a curfew is exceeded, then the child needs to understand that local police can pick them up, that they can go to juvenile detention, that they can be grounded for breaking a home rule etc. Then being consistent with a child comes into play.

Most youth authorities have rules about school attendance. Most drinking establishments have penalties for youth under age being on the site. If these rules are broken, then consistent discipline with communication is necessary.

Children will follow our examples. Therefore part of disciplining with love is showing the example we want our children to follow. If we want a future with adults exhibiting honesty and kindness, adults who try to offer compassionate service to us as 70 or 80 year old parents, then wisdom tells us to treat that 5 or 8 or 13 year old with kindness, with compassion or honesty. Forgetting the laws of karma, remember the abundance of senior citizen abuse. Teach with love, discipline with love. This is how to get you started on helping your child be a success.