These smaller decisions can lead you to larger decisions. The more informed decisions you make the more self-esteem you will find you have. To know that you have made the right decision will defiantly make you feel better and improve your self-esteem.

Now that you can make your own decisions remember that you will have to accept the consequences to those decisions. Consequences are not all bad. There are good and bad, the point is that to find self-esteem outside of your relationships you will need to take the responsibility for your actions. Taking responsibility isn't a bad thing either.

By accepting the responsibility that you need to, your self-esteem can improve if you can be honest with yourself. If something didn't turn out how you wanted it to then don't stress it, just remember not to do things that way again. When your actions do turn out how you wanted or better than you wanted then be a gracious person and enjoy your decisions finding self-esteem. It is ok to reward yourself. Be honest with your feelings about how things turned out.

May people have self-esteem simply because they can reward themselves and not punish themselves. This is true when you are trying to find self-esteem outside of your relationship. You can realize that you do not need someone else's approval for what you do.

Yes it is nice sometimes to have someone tell you "good job". But when you do something that you want to do, do it with pride. This way the job gets done correctly and efficiently. Then you can sit back and feel good about what you have done then you can tell yourself "good job." This will help you to find self esteem and feel better about who you are as an individual person, relationships or not.

For you to know how to find self-esteem out side of your relationships you will need to know that you are an individual with individual worth. The relationships that you are in are such great relationships partly because of you. If you were not such an important part of the relationship then it wouldn't be so great. So when you can realize this and know that you can make a difference, you can find self-esteem outside your relationships. Find time to enjoy something on your own. You are worth a little pampering. If you like massages, go get a massage by yourself and relish in the time you have to better your well-being.

Doing some things by yourself is ok; if you think you are bored by yourself and have to have someone with you, change your thinking. Take the time alone to meditate, plan your day, or simple relax. All work and no play can exhaust a person to the point of low self esteem. Take time for yourself and you can find self esteem outside your relationships.