However, letting the fear of rejection over power you will not leave you anywhere different. Instead of being along because you tried, you are alone because of inaction.

The second thing you must do to get past the fear of rejection is to recognize the consequences of such a fear. Think of the man who was in deep love with a woman. The woman was also in love with this man, but was shy. The man thought of telling her many times about his love but was afraid of being rejected. This fear stopped him whenever he attempted. He could never tell her that he loved her, and her shyness kept her from doing anything about it. Slowly they drifted apart. For some years this man did not know what to do, because the memory of his love and his own cowardice did not allow him to develop a new relationship. One day a woman who loved him asked him to be her partner and he agreed though he never loved her. The consequences were disastrous. So, would you rather try to be with someone you love with the risk of rejection, or be with someone you do not love because they did not reject you?

Next, you have to recognize that it is NOT better to simply not ask rather than hear the word no. You will not be happier if you never try, so quit trying to fool yourself into thinking that you will be. That is nonsense. Instead of having tried, you quit. Instead of the chance for love, you get nothing. If you want to spend your whole life in regret thinking about what could be or what might have been, you go ahead. If you want to enjoy life, find love, and be happy, you have to recognize that asking, putting yourself out there occasionally is the only option.

Next, if you want to overcome the fear of rejection, think about the consequences. Nothing worse will happen other than hearing a no, which is essentially what you are telling yourself when you do not even try. And, if you are brave, you can at least ask why and find out the reason behind the no so that you will not be rejected in the future. Maybe it is because of something easily remedied, like bad breath. If you can weigh the situation and see that the possible consequences are bearable, you will be able to move forward.

You can never really overcome a fear of rejection, but you do not have to let it stop you from acting. No one wants to be rejected, but if you never try, life is much worse than if you try and fail. This is true in many aspects, not just relationships, but it is especially important when your heart is on the line.