How to help your children like themselves better
There are many different reasons why children have a low view of themselves or why they feel that they are not a good person. And sometimes as a parent we are helpless to stop our children from feeling that way, but just because you can't stop your child from feeling bad about themselves doesn't mean there isn't anything you can do about it. In fact the worst thing that any parent can do in that type of a situation is to sit back and do nothing. The good news is that regardless o how our children feel or if they are even listening to what you have to say there are some things that you can do to help your children like themselves better. And best of all it usually just involves talking to your child and not giving up on them.
Difficulty rating: Moderate to difficult
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Step one:
The first thing that you are going to need to do is to find out why your child feels the way that they do about themselves. Sometimes it is as simple as you getting a divorce or them feeling that they are different, but other times it is a bit more complicated.
Step two:
Once you have found out what is wrong you are going to need to let your child now that they are not alone. In fact the chances are pretty good that other kids feel the same way about the same thing. If you know of any friends or family members who are going through the same thing as your children take this opportunity to point this out to them and let them know they are not alone.
Step three:
Make sure that you tell your children that it is not their fault if there has been a death or a divorce in the family. Many times children think it was something that they did that caused the problems. So you need to reassure them it was nothing they did and there was nothing they could have done to prevent it.
Step four:
The next thing that you are going to need to do is to build up your children's self esteem. There are many things that you can do to help build their self esteem. The main reason that you are building their self esteem is so that they feel better about themselves and begin to feel that they can do anything, within reason that is.
Step five:
One thing that you can do to help them build self esteem and feel better about themselves is to tell them everyday that you love them just they way they are and that you really care about them. In fact you can tell them how you think they are special and why they mean so much to you. Just give them plenty of reassurance that you need them and love them.
Step six:
In order to build their self esteem you are going to need to give them realistic goals to achieve. Basically you are going to want to start off with small goals and then getting bigger from there. What you are going to want to do is to help them create goals that fit and work in their lives.
Step seven:
Once they have reached those goals you are going to want to praise them for what they have accomplished. By praising them you are teaching them to think positive about themselves and you are also teaching them to praise themselves. But be careful that you don't teach tem about bragging because bragging puts down other people.
Step eight:
If you know your child has had a bad day try to spend some time alone with them. Talk to them about what happened and why they feel that way. What you want to do is to teach them about dealing with the bad days and ways to make themselves feel better, such as having their nails painted or doing something else for themselves.
