2. Have a date night. Part of intimacy is learning to enjoy one another's fun sides. So, set up a weekly date night where you go on an actual date. Do something fun, and do not talk about the bills, the stress at work, or anything like that. Instead, get to know one another better, talk about memories, and just have a great time bowling, eating, mini-golfing, shopping, skiing, skating, or whatever it is you choose to do for your date night. If you have children, then make sure you set up a babysitter that knows to come at a specific time on a specific day each week.

3. Talk about what you want intimately. One of the biggest inhibitors of intimacy is not communicating with each other what it is you want and expect. If you have sex three times a week, one of you might think you have sex a lot, and the other of you might think you barely ever have sex. So, discuss your expectations. Intimacy does not just mean sex, so talk about what other aspects of intimacy you expect, want, and need. If you want to talk more about goals and future, or fears and insecurity, you need to let your partner know these things. So, open lines of communications about desires, fantasies, and wishes are essential to improved intimacy.

4. Make it fun. Besides having fun on dates, you need to make your really intimate times less serious and more fun. If you do this you will find that improved intimacy comes easy. So, run a bubble bath, and pour the champagne or the sparkling cider. Get massage oils, and light candles, and have fun giving each other massages. Get body paints, and have at it. There are plenty of toys, games, and products made specifically to spice things up, make things fun, and add a new level of intimacy to your relationship, so use these to your advantage, just make sure that you do not do anything your partner is uncomfortable with.

5. Get embarrassed. Part of intimacy is knowing your partner better than anyone else, knowing them intimately. So, increase your trust levels, and share a deeper side of yourself. Swap embarrassing stories, favorite moments, first impressions, thoughts, etc. This will help you know how your spouse operates, and help them see how you operate, and this will help intimacy.

Improving intimacy in marriage takes time, and desire from both parties. You have to be willing to open up and let someone get close. You have to have fun with it, and not take things too seriously. Life should be fun, so make your quest for intimacy fun and you will succeed.