How to make your family a bigger priority than your friends
The following are some tips for how to make your family a bigger priority than your friends:
- Spend time with your family. Your friends become your big priority when you spend time with them. Why? Because the more time you spend with someone the better you get to know them. The better you get to know someone the deeper your relationship becomes invested, and the more you care. The more you care, the higher they fall on your priority list. If you want your family to be a bigger priority than your friends, you need to actually get to know them better. You will need to spend more time with your family than your friends if you want them to be a bigger priority than your friends. When you spend time with one another you get to know likes and dislikes, you get to know opinions and philosophies, this leads to the respect that makes them your priorities. So, spend time together and you will see that your priorities realign, and you care more about them, they become a higher priority.
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- Decide they are a bigger priority and take necessary actions. It is hard to make your family a bigger priority when you do not want to. Let's face it, it is much simpler to hang out with your friends, and the people you choose to associate with instead of the people you end up spending time with by default. However, if you want to make your family a bigger priority, sit down and write out the things that need to change to actually make that happen. This might mean that when you get off work you do not go to the bar or the club with your friends you go home and play with your kids, or talk with your grandparents, or eat dinner that mom burnt, but do it as a family. Once you make a clear list of what needs to happen to move your family up on your priority list then you are making conscious decisions each time you do not make them a priority over your friends.
- Write down the things that you love about your family. A lot of times when your family falls on your priority list it is because you forget about the good things in your life, and the good things about your family. So, make a list of all the things that you love about your family, even if it is your silliness, or that you cheat at games, or have weird Christmas traditions. If you look at these things regularly you will be able to find that appreciation and love you once had for your family and you will be more willing to move them up on your priority list. You will find that you better enjoy the time you spend with them, and you will find that you are more likely to make them a priority because you are looking for good and cherishing it.
Making your family a priority over your friends is not exactly easy, but it is possible. You just need to spend some time with your family, and you have to recognize the value in having your family as a higher priority. For example, your family is forever, and your friends, while they can be close will come and go. You can't find the bonds and relationships that come in family with friends, even if you try, so that is why it is so important to make your family a bigger priority than your friends.
