First recognize that you never want to be in a position where it is too late: If you were to get in a fight with your friend, and as they walked out the door of your house, let's say they were hit by a bus.how would you feel? It would suck. Well, as unlikely as it seems, anytime you walk away mad, and do not reconcile, you run the risk of reconciliation coming too late. So, do not put yourself fin that position.

Second, decide if your tiff or grudge is really worth it: If you have had a tiff, or a grudge that has caused some strain on the relationship, you have to either dwell on it or let it go. No one likes admitting they are wrong, so do not count on someone doing this, and never wait for it. Instead, be mature and facilitate the process of reconciliation. The common meaning of reconciliation is to patch up or to resolve and bring the situation back to normal.

Thirdly, start right away: Why shouldn't you work to reconcile with friends, family, or anyone else right away. Yes time heals things, but why wait for this day to come?

You have to recognize the need to drop your pride. Usually when someone needs to reconcile with someone else it is because they did not think before the spoke, did not weight the consequences before the acted, or they betrayed some kind of trust. If you want to reconcile, you have to be prepared to not care about blame, but care about the person.

If you can learn to do this, you will be able to not only reconcile, but chances are you will also be able to avoid all the fights as well. However, most of us care too much about being right. So, you need to ask yourself, Why not to kill the arguments before they begin to take a shape? Why not forget about my ego for a minute and instead think about the relationship?

If you fight to see who is right and who is wrong, you will likely fight to the grave. No one ever wins those kinds of fights. So, quit trying. Instead, try to win the most people over, have the most friends, and the best kept relationships because you have learned to reconcile differences quickly and efficiently.
If you want to reconcile with anyone you have to start somewhere. It does not matter how embarrassing it gets, how many times you have to say sorry (even if you did nothing) or how much effort it takes to regain trust. If you want to live happily, and have good quality friendships and relationships in this life, you have to learn to reconcile differences and move forward, not backward.

Start today. Say sorry. Mean it. Try hard. Be a friend.