You are a stay at home mom, and you are frustrated and ready for a break by the time your husband gets home from work. The kids have made mess after mess, you barely had time to use the bathroom during the day, let alone shower. The house is messy (despite your constant efforts), dinner is not made (because who has time to cook when you are mopping up spilled juice?), the kids are rowdy(that is what happens when they find your chocolate, and you are too tired to make them eat their lunch first), and you has been running around like your head is cut off. So, you're your husband comes home from work, you want him to take over for a while, you want to go in your room, read a magazine, take a bubble bath, or shut your eyes for a few minutes. Meanwhile, husband is working hard at a non-stimulating job, trying to earn enough money to feed, clothe, and provide shelter for his brood, and be able to provide his bride with some of the finer things in life. His day at the office went bad, he was not recognized for hard work, someone ate the lunch he put in the fridge, and on the way home he got pulled over. So, what happens when he walks in? Well, you want him to take over, and he wants you to comfort him, and let him unwind in front of the television, etc. at least for a while. This means frustrated spouses.

It can be very hard to understand someone else's point of view or even to consider it when you have had a long day. However, if you take over their role for a day (or maybe just a few hours), even if you simply imagine yourself in their place as they describe their day to you, you can better see things from their perspective. You should take the kids, make dinner, and get the house clean while she naps. And she should keep the kids out while you watch your show, and have dinner ready for you later. But this is not likely to happen. So, to better understand your spouse, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, or anyone's perspective, you have to walk in their shoes. This is obvious, but so important. We live in a selfish world, and it can be difficult to see past the end of your own nose. So, next time you find that you are having a hard time seeing things from their perspective, just think of the two parents who both had bad days, and ask yourself why they would feel and act they way they are? Then put yourself in their place.what would you do? Once you realize this, you are on your way to seeing things from his/her perspective, even if you do have different backgrounds, and personality types.