How to show your children you love them
Children are somewhat fragile. They thrive when they feel love, and they revert or lash out when they feel a threat to their love source. So, how can you show your children you love them?
The following are ways to daily show your children that you love them:
1. Get up with them in the morning.
If your child starts the day out on the wrong foot, they may feel less loved. So, if your child is an early morning riser, or a late riser. No matter what you are doing, sleeping or otherwise, get up, get your child breakfast, smile, give them a hug, and tell them you love them. Sometimes starting off on the right foot can help your child feel loved all day long. So, make this a big priority. Helping your child start the day off feeling loved will help them be less needy, clingy, or insecure all day long. When your child knows that you will drop anything for them, they will feel loved, and they will not require you to drop as much.
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2. Read them stories:
one of the best ways to show your children that you love them is to read to them. Spending quality time, each day, reading stories does more than help them feel loved, it also increases their understanding of life. Reading helps your child to get smarter. Reading helps your child increase their creative powers. So, show your child you love them, help them get a step up in the world by making them smarter, and spend some quality time EVERY day reading them books. Take them to a library, let them choose as many books as they are years old, hunker down, and read, read, read.
3. Snuggle them.
Physical touch is one of the best ways to show your children you love them. It is very comforting for a child to be held, hugged, and kissed. Just as an infant will calm right down when picked up, a small child can be in tears, and a simple kiss, hug, etc. will bring them to joy. So, make sure that you show physical love to your child each day. Give them a hug or kiss in the morning, any time they need some attention during the day, end the encounter with a kiss or hug, or even a pat on the back or the head.
4. Have a routine.
One of the best ways to show your love is to have consistency. Children who know what to expect feel safer, more comfortable, and know they are loved better than children who have constant change, and no one to count on. So, establish a routine with your children that work for both of you. Have meals at a specific time, do activities together each day. Have quiet time etc. If you are going to deviate from your schedule make sure you talk to your children about it. Help them prepare ahead of time. If they are aware of the deviation, they will handle it better. They will feel secure, and they will not think that you do not love them. If you are going to leave them with a sitter, tell them in advance, make sure it is a sitter they know, and make sure you verbally let them know you love them before walking out the door.
5. Play on the floor with them.
Do not just watch them play; you want to spend some time each day down playing with them. Help them to fuel their creativity. Play games with them, color, have activities, projects etc. Children know their friends like them because their friends play with them. So, why not give them the same reason to know you love them.
6. One on one time.
Spending one on one time with your child EVERY day is key to having them know you love them. If you go the entire day without talking to, listening to, or understanding the personal, and often hidden, needs of your child, you may leave them without a feeling of love. So, whether it is five minutes of one on one time each day, or a couple of hours, make that time. Do something with your child for them, not you. So, for example, if you go to see a movie, see one that they would like, not just one that you would like.
If you follow the above advice your child will know without a doubt that you love them. You can still punish them, you can still discipline poor behavior, and revoke privileges when needed, but that will not make them insecure about whether or not you love them.
