Start by asking your wife about her interests. Let her talk as long as she wants to about them. Be an active part of the conversation, ask questions and verify what she says to make sure you understand. Talking will help you grow closer together and find new understanding.

After you have talked, take time to find out about her interests on your own. Do some research and find out new things that you can share with your wife next time you talk to her about her interests. This initiative will show her that you really care about her interests.

Try asking your wife if she can teach you. This can show her that you really want to learn, and that you feel she is intelligent. Give her a chance to share her knowledge and her feelings about her interests. Be a good student and maybe even do some homework without her.

Keep an open mind. If her interests aren't manly enough or challenging enough for you, don't just brush them off. There could be more to them than you think. Make sure you give them all of the attention she deserves. If it is really important to you to spend time with your wife, then nothing should be to trivial.

Don't criticize your wife about her interests. Make sure that you aren't making her feel bad about what she enjoys. If you are truly taking an interest in her, then don't make her think or feel that you are doing this out of obligation. In other words, be a willing participant.

When you are talking to your wife listen carefully for clues of things that she wants to do, but hasn't done. This may be a hobby, travel, or anything. Take this and find a way to fulfill this dream with her. You can find many things in common when you venture into something that is new to both of you.

If your wife doesn't really feel like she wants to share all of her interests with you that is alright. Work together to find a new interest you can share. This may be taking a class together or learning a new skill together, whatever you can think of. This gives you common interests and time for yourself with different interests.

Make sure that you are becoming interested for the right reasons. Your intent should always be to show your wife love and interest. If you are expecting something in return then you don't have the right attitude. Do for her, not for what you can get out of it.

Spending time together is a very important aspect of marriage, but spending quality time is the best way to be. Doing something productive together can bring you closer together than you ever were.

Start spending time together like you did when you were dating. Learn something new about your wife and become new friends all over again. Show interest in your wife and your marriage will benefit immensely. Don't forget to tell her you love her too.