Hurt feelings be gone
Life is a series of relationships, and sometimes in relationships feelings get hurt. This may be because something hurtful was said or done. It may be because something was not said or done. It may be because something that was said or done was taken the wrong way, or differently from what was intended. The fact remains, no matter what the cause, feelings get hurt, both yours and others. So, what can you do differently to help ensure that you no longer suffer the pain of hurt feelings, whether your own or someone else's? Try the following:
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- Think before you speak or act. One of the biggest contributors to hurt feelings are words or actions that are said or performed before any thought is given to the situation. Often time we blurt things out and not even realize how hurtful they are until they have left our lips and we can't recall them. So, take the time to think, think, think. You may realize that even if you want to hurt someone, that there may be repercussions you do not want, etc. So think first, talk and act second.
- Always assume the best. One contributor to hurt feelings is the tendency we have to always think people mean the worst. This is normal, but it is not exactly healthy. If you are looking to get your feelings hurt, or to hurt someone's you are sure to do so. However, if you always think the best of others, and of the situation, it will be rare that your feelings get hurt. Even when someone does or says something very unkind you will be able to realize that they may be going through something hard, and are lashing out to whomever they can, etc. If you assume the best of others, and that they mean the best, there is little room for misjudging what is said, and turning into a mean or hateful sentiment.
- Avoid situations that lead to hurt feelings. If you know that when you are on your period you are over sensitive about your weight, and that your Grandma is always going to comment on your weight, then do not go around her during that time of the month. Why put yourself into a situation where you know there is a good chance your feelings will be hurt? If you know you are sensitive about certain topics, or that you are ornery at certain times, or that certain situations bring out the worst in you, avoid them. It is far harder to get your feelings hurt, or hurt someone else's in good situations then it is in bad. Never knowingly put yourself in a situation that could result in hurt for you or someone else. If you are feeling unusually ornery, and are supposed to be going out with your friend, call and cancel. It is smarter to reschedule then to ruin a friendship because you were in a sour mood and said something hurtful.
