One of the biggest fears people who date their superiors at work have is: What if they fire me after we break up? This is a legitimate fear. Not all break ups are going to be smooth and friendly. Sure, there are times when people leave a relationship amicably, but there is a risk that yours won't. Of course, there are laws in place to help prevent people from being fired from work for personal reasons. Your superior could get around the laws, they can find legitimate reasons to let you go. If you are worried about this, it is best to declare the relationship to HR, and make sure that your human resources department is aware of your fear. That way, if it does happen, you can take some recourse of your own.

What if others find out? This is another fear most people have when they date their superiors. They worry that if others find out they will resent them. It can be difficult to find friends at work, and if they start to doubt your abilities, or lose respect for you, it can be a hard thing to handle. So, the best way to handle it if you want to date your superior at work is to simply let your friends at work know, and make sure they know that you don't want things to change, and that if they start to treat you differently, you are going to call them out on it.

If I get promoted, other people will think it is favoritism, not based on my merit. This is one of the biggest fears people have, and rightly so. It is hard for people to see someone get promoted, especially if they don't get promoted, and think good of them. It would be great if everyone was happy for others, despite their own situation. However, if you are dating your superior and you get promoted, and other people don't, they will of course whisper behind your back, and say that it is undeserved. You just have to deal with it. People are people, and they are going to feel what they want to feel. However, in order for you to be able to date your superior and have a healthy relationship it is imperative that you have the self-esteem to get past the whispering and prove that you deserve any promotion, etc. you get.