Anyone who has ever had a friend attempt suicide, or be successful at committing suicide knows how emotionally traumatizing it can be to not only that person, but to the people who are part of their life. It is simple to play the blame game, and start thinking about all of the things you could have done better, or should have done differently with your friend. Could have, would have, should have, is all fine and well, but it does not do anything productive, and can lead to serious psychological issues.

It is human nature to be harder on ourselves than we are with anyone else. However, it is unfair to yourself to think that it is okay to blame yourself for your friend's problems. Life stinks sometimes, and it is hard for everyone, but deciding to check out is your friend's choice, and nothing you can say or do will make that choice for them. And no matter how bad you feel, or how much you think that you could have done this or that, it won't change the fact that it is not your fault.

If you have a friend who has made a suicide attempt, and you are feeling responsible, or putting the blame on your own shoulders, it might be wise to speak with a psychologist. They can help you work through the grief and frustration that you are feeling. Often therapy is not going to be enough, you will want to work on your own esteem, and recognize what you should have done differently as a friend, and learn from it, but stop blaming yourself.

One of the things that you must do if you feel any sort of responsibility for your friend's suicide attempt is just be the friend you should be. Be the kind of friend that you worry you weren't. Be there for them, but don't give up your life to do so. Let them know you care. However, don't care so much that you sacrifice your own life Be a great friend, and make sure they know they can talk to you. If they start having more suicidal tendencies, then talk to an adult, or someone who you can trust. Do not try and handle it yourself, as it will disrupt more of your life than it ever should.