Answer: First off, if you want your marriage to work, stop what you are doing immediately! It is not good to stick yourself in the line of temptation. Sure it can be fun to go down the road of old flings. One of the things you give up when you get married is having those firsts again. After a while, a kiss, a handhold, a conversation is not going to hold the allure and excitement that it once did.

Talking to an old boyfriend is going to be like playing with matches. There is a high likelihood that you are going to get burned. Sure you may have some lingering feelings, but they do not need to be acted on, and they will not necessarily result in more happiness then you have with your husband.

Your lingering feelings are likely a result of one of the following things: One, the excitement or adrenaline rush that comes from doing something you know you shouldn't be doing. Guilt has a way of making things seem more exciting, at least for a while. Then they start to wear at you. So recognize the feeling for what it is. The butterflies are more about the adrenaline you get when you are doing something knowing you might get caught, then feelings of love for the person you are talking to. Two, the feelings may simply be the excitement of something new. If you have been married for a long time, things might be getting somewhat old and stale. Thus a new person, a new way of talking (flirting), is exciting. Three, the attention you are getting. Often being married you move away from real conversation, and your interactions are often mundane. So, talking to a past boyfriend can be exciting because it makes you feel like a person again, rather than just a figure in someone's life.

If you are feeling unsatisfied with your husband, it is not because of someone else, it is because of you and your husband. Instead of turning to another man or a past boyfriend, etc., consider trying to make your relationship more exciting. Introduce toys to your love life, have a set date night, go on a vacation together. Make a point of talking to your spouse, flirting with them, and doing little things to reignite the passion you once had, or at least find new ways of finding joy and excitement in your current relationship.