Why is it important to keep romance alive?

Let's face it, if you let the romance die, your marriage could be equated to roommates who share a bank account (if you even do). So, the point is, you need to keep the romance alive, because it is part of what makes the marital relationship so special. The romance is a way of expressing the love and the devotion you have to one another. Romance embodies pleasing one another, and putting aside selfishness, in lieu of happiness. So, here are some ways to keep the romance alive.

Tips for doing so:
1. Go on regular date nights. It is very typical advice to not forget about your date nights, but the reason it is typical is because it is so important. A date night gives you a chance to have fun together. It gives you time alone to try and connect and remember why you had such attraction to each other in the first place to get married. A date night also gives you a chance to be away from your everyday craziness and just enjoy time together without kids, bills, work, and other things encroaching in, unless you let them.

2. Have "together time" each day. This can be ten minutes in the morning before your kids get up, or ten minutes at night before you put them to bed, or in the middle of the day. The point is, make sure it is uninterrupted, and make sure that you do it religiously. This is not time to clean, work, or watch television. This should be ten minutes where you talk, check in, make sure both parties needs are being met, and that no one is feeling neglected or unhappy about anything. It is like a nice way to check up on things, and fix problems before they escalate. It can also be fun to just sit and sip a cup of hot cocoa, or snuggle on a couch and talk.

3. Have fun together. You want to keep the romance alive, then have fun together. Nothing spurs romance along like a great shared activity. Get back to the fun in your life, be carefree, and enjoy your time together. When you let your fun leave your relationship because you have "responsibility" you are in for a boring life.

4. Don't neglect your sex life. This is an important aspect of keeping your relationship healthy, and the romance alive. Love and romance after marriage are not impossible, and sex is a big part of letting your spouse know you love them, desire them, and want to share intimate experiences with them.

5. Keep responsibilities, money, etc. separate from you love. Money can be the root of a lot of problems, so don't let it get in the way of your love. Love despite their bad spending, their poor income, etc. Don't let kids get in the way of you loving your spouse either. It can be tiring, and you may resent the lack of help, but keep it separate so your relationship can flourish.