Love yourself more than me
Have you ever been a relationship where it seemed like the person loved himself or herself more than they love you? This is not uncommon. People are, in general, selfish beings and want to do what is best for them, without a lot of thought to what is best for those around them. If they are hungry, they want to eat, if they are tired, they want to sleep. If they need new clothes, they want to use money to buy them, rather than something else. The list goes on. If you find yourself in a relationship where selfishness seems to be the defining characteristic, consider the following:
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Selfishness kills relationships. It is impossible to have a healthy relationship when both individuals have selfish desires they are acting on. When someone is selfish in a relationship, either there is constant bickering, or the other person is giving up on all of their own wishes and desires, and becoming a doormat. Neither option is healthy. Selfishness kills relationships. It cannot bring about a healthy outcome because it is an unhealthy characteristic.
Fix a relationship where they don't have your best interests are heart. If you are in a relationship with someone who loves himself or herself more than they love you, it is time to fix things or end things. A healthy relationship requires people to put the interest of their loved one in the forefront of their mind. They may want to get home from work and lay on the couch watching television, but if they notice that their partner has also had a long day, and that there is much to be done around the house, or to prepare a meal, or whatever the needs are, a healthy, unselfish, relationship will result in both partners pitching in until the work is done, and then relaxing together. The selfish relationship will result in one partner doing most the work, while the other justifies not helping by their own need for rest, relaxation, etc.
Unhealthy relationships are the result of someone loving themselves more than they love others. They do not work for long. Thus, it is wise to watch for the signs of this, and either help them make a change or end the relationship. Often, selfishness in a relationship comes form long existing habit. It can take time to make a change, but if you do not see a real effort, then chances are it will not be changed ever.
If it is hard to know where you rank on the priority list of your partner, then chances are it is not very high. There are always going to be days when we give in to our selfish impulses over those things that are best for our relationship as a whole, but when that becomes the rule, rather than the exception, then you are in an unhealthy relationship that will lead to ruin.
