There are times when not getting along with someone can really mean good things for your relationship. Basically, it adds some interest and spice. However, there are other times when it means too much tension and stress. The key is to find a way to make it so that when you do disagree, it is not damaging to the fundamental aspects of a healthy relationship. If you can learn to disagree in a positive way, where you share opinions and differences of opinions, and fight without fighting each other, then you can have a healthy relationship.

You don't get along, but do you respect one another? Every relationship will face some conflict, it is not whether or not you disagree, but how you do so. This is the most critical question to answer. The fact is that if you argue, it is fine, but if you disrespect one another when you argue, then it isn't. However, this does not mean your relationship is doomed. One of the things you can do is learn how to communicate in respectful ways. Often arguing comes as a result of not knowing how to communicate respectfully.

If you aren't getting along, look for a way to disagree in a more respectful way. This can mean you need to get in to see a therapist, etc. to find a mediator of sorts to teach you how to have a relationship where disagreements are not always detrimental to your relationship. A therapist can guide your arguments, and help you learn the places where you go downhill, and how to fix your go to responses so that you have more positive ones that lead to healthy communication.

Knowing how to argue with someone you love is a skill that takes time and effort to develop. If you love someone with a different set of values, and widely differing opinions than your own, your arguments may be frequent. If you do not learn to argue in a productive way, ending the relationship is probably the best option. As, chances are, your arguments are not going to end, which means if you never figured out how to argue right, you will be damaging yourself, and having an unhealthy relationship. Constant arguing can lead to decreased esteem, questioning your worth, and of course, forming unhealthy patterns of interaction in relationships, which means it can damage future relationships as well.