Making better bonds with your spouse and their friends
When you got married you knew that your spouse can with a whole package. That package includes friends you know and some that you don't. In trying to bond with your spouse you start to find that bonding with their friends is just as important.
It can be hard to reach out of your comfort zone and bond with new people, but the rewards in your marriage will be worth it. Here are a few ideas for bonding with your spouse and their friends.
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- Make sure that they want you to try. Talk with your spouse and make sure that it isn't going to offend them if you come into their circle of friends. If your spouse feels that you are their best friend, then there should be no problem there.
- Start by finding out what interests the group has in common and learn all you can about their interests. This gives you some understanding of their friends and also gives you a conversation piece to start with. You will make a great impression by coming in prepared.
- When you go to meet your spouse's friends make sure that you are at your best. This means looking your best and being yourself. Try not to be too shy, they will never get to know you. On the other hand, try not to be in their faces, they may never forget you but you may never be invited again. Find a happy medium and become part of the group.
- Keep an open mind. Make sure that you don't have preconceived ideas about your spouse's friends. Don't judge them too quickly, give them a chance. They may seem like a lot to handle at first, but stick it out, your spouse will appreciate it. After the first meeting if you had a terrible time, don't spill all of your feelings to your spouse. Offending your spouse by insulting or criticizing their friends will make them upset that they ever introduced you.
- If they aren't the same kind of people you would normally hang out with, don't try to make them such. Trying to change your spouse's friends will drive a wedge between your spouse and their friends. This can make for a miserable existence with your spouse. Loosing friends is a hard thing for anyone.
- If you are trying to bond with your husbands friends, food is a great trick. After all, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. The extra effort also shows that you really care to impress his friends. Husbands like to feel like they can brag about their wives, give him a good reason to.
- If the shoe is on the other foot and you are trying to bond with your wives friends, food isn't always the answer. Compliments work wonders, but watch your step, women get jealous easy. A great way to work your way into the hearts of your wife's friends is to treat your wife like an angel. Show her affection and take care of her while you are with her friends, you will melt their hearts.
Don't forget to come out and ask your spouse what you can do to grow closer to them and their friends. They will be able to give you some good tips and help you steer away from offending someone. Most spouses will be very excited to hear that you want to join their group of friends, it gives them an excuse to hang out with them more often!
