When the urge is there, make the time. It is hard to catch both people at just the right moment, but when those moments do come; put everything else down and get down to business. There's nothing worse than thinking "we'll do it after dinner" or "we'll do it after I just finish this up." By the time later comes around, the mood has changed. Sex will happen more often and be better for both people if a little spontaneity is involved. Making the time for it to happen when the mood is right shouldn't be that hard. If the mood is already there, then foreplay is already in process. Let's face it, having sex is not a three hour process (usually) so drop whatever else is going on and be spontaneous.

It is harder to be spontaneous when there are children in the house. Kids seem to end up everywhere except where they are expected to be. It might take a little more creativity to find the time to follow those spontaneous urges. But, if there's a will there's a way.

Flexibility

Some people are too stuck on a schedule to really make time for sex. People with this problem need to learn a little flexibility. If the moment hits first thing in the morning, then go for it. Being five or ten minutes late to work is probably not the end of the world. If the line was extra long at Starbucks, no one would think twice about being ten minutes late. Why not let the schedule be flexible enough to make time for sex? Being intimate doesn't have to always happen at night or on the weekends or after dinner. Making time for the most important person in the world shouldn't be so hard. There shouldn't be anything else that takes priority over that person, and sex is usually a pretty good way to maintain a healthy relationship. Sometimes it is ok to use the "family emergency" card to make time for some really good sex. It can be an emergency sometimes.

Planning

Let's face it; sometimes making time for sex just requires some good planning. Everyone makes time for grocery shopping, exercise, reading, relaxing, clothes shopping, and so many other things. Even down to planning out Tuesday and Wednesday nights so that they can watch American Idol. Does TV take precedence over maintaining a healthy relationship by making time for sex? Every person should include at least a little extra time in their life for intimacy. Having sex is part of balanced healthful lifestyle. It can reduce stress and help a person feel more secure and loved. So plan out some romantic moments and make time for sex.

There are few basic needs for the human being, and fortunately having sex is definitely one of them. So it is in everyone person's best interest to make time for sex by planning a little better, being a little more flexible, and following spontaneous urges more often.