No other success can compensate for failure in the home
In today's society one horrible tragedy happens after another, we see gang violence, school shootings, prisons packed with inmates that have committed every crime, from rape, to petty theft, to murder. New legislation, school programs, and community actions are put into place to try and combat these issues, and yet we still see non-violent problems such as illiteracy, low self-esteem, and the list goes on.
Our government is constantly striving to find the cure-all, and the solution to the problem in our society, and all too often, the answer, which is staring them in the face, is ignored, and overlooked. The fact of the matter is, if home environments were better, many of these problems would solve themselves. This is not to say that there would be no problems, as people still have their agency. However, the home is the location where the groundwork of character, personality, personal feelings and philosophies are laid. Failure in the home leads to holes in the development of these, which leads to all the above mentioned issues. So, let's look at why there is failure in the home by taking a look at what it takes to make success, and thus what is lacking.
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Most successful homes have this:
- Both parents
- One stay at home parent, or at least a parent that is home at the cross roads (more details later).
- Rules
- Religion
- Love
So what happens?
Well, divorce is rampant in this country, what is it, over 50% of marriages end in divorce? So, many homes are single parent, which means that someone else has to fill in the role of the other parent, friends (not always a good influence), sitters, grandparents, siblings.
One stay-at-home parent is rare. Being a "mom" or a "house wife" is looked down upon, it is less than being even a grocery store clerk, because at least as a clerk you are making money, right? Wrong. Being a stay at home parent is one of the biggest responsibilities you can take upon yourself. If you can't stay home full time, at least be home at the cross roads. This means before your children leave for school, and when they come home, as well as before they go to bed, and when they wake up in the morning. If you are not home to see your children, how can you know when they have a problem? How can you know when they are going down the wrong path? Getting into drugs? Etc.
So why aren't people staying home? Because financial success drives them to work. A title, a corner office, an executive desk and position. Worldly success like having a home, summer home, boat, and timeshare mean so much. However, the truth is no other success can compensate for failure in the home. A ruined marriage, a wayward teen. It does not matter if you are world renowned and incredibly brilliant, if you can not plant seeds of success in your own home, you have let the world down.
When your focus becomes success outside the home, and the home is forgotten, marriages fail, children suffer, and society as a whole become worse and worse. It is not to say that other success is unimportant, it is, but success in the home should be the most important.
Success in the home generates better relationships on all levels, it fosters love and understanding, it leads to higher self-esteem, better grades in school, more attention to detail, better, more productive, happier, well-rounded individuals. We have all heard the saying, "He grew up in a bad part of town." Or, "She had a bad childhood and home life." Those are legitimate excuses for why people end in failure or have costly mistakes. Go to the root, the home! If there is success in the home, success elsewhere grows exponentially.
