Nudity in relationships
When you are in a relationship with someone, you get comfortable. At first you get all ready, and you do not see each other without makeup, and fancy clothes, etc. You pretend that you never fart, or talk with your mouth full, etc. But after a while you do not mind kissing with morning breath, having them walk in while you pee on the toilet, and that sort of thing. As you get more comfortable with someone you start to wear fewer articles of clothing. Some people have no problem at all walking around the house completely naked, or just in their underwear. But, what happens if the other person in the relationship is not comfortable with this? Most people do not mind nudity when intimacy is involved, and may not mind the occasional lounge around the house in your boxers or panties, but if you are always in a state of undress, it can be a rather uncomfortable situation. The following are some tips on how to tell your significant other that you want them to put their clothes on:
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1. Sit them down and tread lightly. The best way to address an uncomfortable situation is carefully. You will want to use some tact and be careful to not step on their feelings. So, sit them down, and explain how you feel about their nudity. Let them know that you love to see them, and when you guys are intimate you want them to be naked, but that it makes you slightly uncomfortable the rest of the time. Let them know that it has nothing to do with them, but it is your feelings. Then give them some concrete reasons you feel that way. Maybe they are leaving some body hairs on the furniture, or they aren't shutting the blinds and the neighbors are talking. You need to make your discomfort known, and back it up.
2. Make some compromises. You might set some days that can be "naked" days, and some that you are more comfortable with them being dressed. You can make a few ground rules. For example, maybe their nudity bothers you because you are worried that your friends will stop by and walk in on them naked. You might dislike that they can't run out and get the mail, or grab something out of the car for you, etc. because they are never dressed. So, maybe there can be times that it is permissible, and times that it isn't.
3. Don't attack them. If you tell them that their body is repulsive, or that you are frustrated to always see them naked because it grosses you out, or something that is dismissive or not complimentary, then you are in for some trouble. Just be honest, but kind, and chances are you will have some good results. After all, it is probably someone who really cares about you, and so they are going to want to make you happy, even if that means putting on some sweats, or at the very least wearing a robe as well.
