Personality types, how they effect relationships

We all have different personalities, and yet our personality can be classified into a personality type. Many people have done hundreds of studies on personality types, and there results are varied. However, one thing is clear, your personality type definitely affects your relationships. Why? Well, we are given a personality type based on how we take in information and how we make decisions. Both of these factors really affect relationships as we are constantly reading what other people are doing and making decisions about those actions, etc.

In many studies it is believed that we can perceive information via 1) our senses, or 2) our intuition. We can make decisions based on 1) objective logic, or 2) subjective feelings. Of course each of us use all of these things, but it is how we use them that determines our personality type. We each use these functions with a varying amount of success and frequency, and that is how we type ourselves.

So what are the different personality types? Well that is complicated, you see there are many different views of personality types. The following is a list of some of the common personality typing and what it means, these personality typings are used in Christian theological psychology:


  • Obsessive-Compulsive: conscientious, preoccupation with perfection, orderliness, etc.

  • Avoidant: social inhibitions, feelings of inadequacy, sensitive

  • Paranoid: distrusting, suspicious, vigilant personality

  • Histrionic: the dramatic personality type


  • Sadistic: an aggressive personality type

  • Schizotypal: idiosyncratic or compulsive personality types

  • Compensatory Narcissistic: inventive, looking for glory and limelight personality type

  • Schizoid: a solitary personality, detaches from social relationships


  • Passive-Aggressive: a leisurely personality type

  • Depressive: a series personality

  • Masochistic: a self sacrificing personality

  • Dependent: a personality of someone who is devoted


  • Narcissistic: self confident and self loving personality type

  • Antisocial: adventurous personality type

  • Borderline: idealizes images personality type

  • Cyclothymic: an artistic personality type

As you can see each of these personality types have their own characteristics and these play a part in how successful or difficult a relationship is. For example, an obsessive-compulsive personality type would not likely get along well with a passive aggressive personality. However, they would likely get along really well with a masochistic or borderline personality type.

Another realm of personality typing categorizes people only four ways:

  • Dominant

  • Expressive

  • Solid

  • Analytical

Each of these types have their own set of unique features and each need to be considered when in a relationship. For example, if you were in a relationship with someone who has an analytical personality type and you get in a fight, you would not want to ignore the problem until it goes away, you would want to talk through it and analyze it.

A personality type is an important thing to consider in a relationship because it is going to effect it both directly and indirectly. The personality you have is a determining factor for how you take in the world and handle it. If you and your partner have opposite personalities it will be difficult to sustain a positive relationship environment because your method of taking in a problem, processing it, and handling it will be different. Different can work, but you have to recognize how their personality is a big part of how they make their decisions, and respect that. If you have an expressive partner you have to be willing to listen to the expressions and go with their flow some, otherwise the differences in your personalities will affect you negatively.

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