The first and most important thing to remember is that your emotions and the emotions of your spouse or other close family members who will be most impacted by your pregnancy should be the emotions that you put the most stock into. You are pregnant! It is a beautiful and exciting time of life. You must be aware that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being excited about your situation even if your friend may be hurting. Remember you are not at fault, you have done nothing wrong. See your role towards your friend the same way as it has always been. You should be a comfort to her, a companion, and a shoulder to cry on. There should be no place for feelings of guilt or self-loathing.

Once you get your head in the right place, you can start concentrating more on what may be happening with your friend's mindset. The feelings that a woman may experience as a result of having a difficult time getting pregnant or as a result of finding out that she is in fact unable to have children, are very similar to the feelings that one might experience as part of the grieving process. Many of these women feel angry. There may be angry feelings towards the own woman's spouse, anger towards one's self, and anger towards a higher being. As a society we like to assign fault and make comparisons with one another to determine who is most at fault. In the case of not being able to conceive, the woman may see that others in similar situations are able to have babies, it must be something that she is doing, or not doing, that has brought her fate upon her. Although it is not entirely accurate to say that these women are irrational, it is fair to say that that heightened emotions that are associated with wanting something like a baby so badly and not being able to have that, can certainly cloud judgment and make things difficult to see in their proper perspective.

Your friend is also going to be dealing with a lot of sadness. Similar to one who would feel sad at the passing of a close friend or family member, a woman who struggles to become pregnant may feel very much like the family-life that she yearns for may be getting further and further from her grasp or that her hopes for a future family will never materialize. Naturally, any reminder of this sad possible reality will be upsetting. Unfortunately, as the woman who is now pregnant, your pregnancy will automatically be one of these painful reminders.

Just as you would be sensitive to any personal struggle or painful situation, you need to be sensitive to the feelings that your friend will likely be experiencing. While it is likely that your world will revolve around your pregnancy, try your best to put your own excitement aside as you spend time with your friend. Focus more on the things that you two enjoy doing together. Try to act more as you would have before your pregnancy. Remember that you should not stifle your own needs and happy emotions, but instead use that happiness and excitement as a way to encourage and uplift your friend.