Repairing a broken relationship
Most people have suffered at least one relationship that they wished they could have fixed; usually that relationship is the one that should never have gotten away. However, many people think that once a relationship is damaged it is over; there is no making up in that relationship, no chance of fixing it. However, just because a relationship is broken that doesn't mean that you can't fix it, but you also need to be prepared for the fact that you cannot fix every relationship. When trying to fix a relationship it can go either way.
Here are some tips that you need to keep in mind when trying to repair a broken relationship.
You need to take responsibility for changing. This does not mean that you take responsibility for the relationship breaking up, but you also don't want to place the blame on the other party for the relationship breaking up. The reason for this is because you are trying to repair the relationship and it cannot be repaired if everybody is busy playing the blame game. If you can't get past, blaming each other than there is no hope in repairing the relationship. However, when taking responsibility for changing it is accepting the fact that you have changed or that you can change and then go out and make those changes.
Now that you have made the changes to yourself that you felt were needed you are going to need to sell yourself to your ex. However, bad this might sound it is the same thing that you did when you first got together. What you are going to be doing is showing your ex how you have changed and that it is for the better. Sure, you can tell them that you have changed, but actions always speak louder than words. You want to show your ex what they will be gaining by deciding to get back into a relationship with you.
You also need to think about if the relationship is worth repairing. You want to watch out so that you do not try to repair a relationship that is not going to allow you to be true to yourself, a relationship that is going to change you and not allow you to be happy with yourself. These kinds of relationships are actually unhealthy and are never worth repairing, most likely they will just fall apart again causing even more hurt and pain then the first time around. Basically when you are going to fix the relationship the changes you make have to be changes that you are comfortable with doing and keeping for the rest of your life. If you are not comfortable, it is time for you to move on.
When repairing a broken relationship you actually have to put your whole heart and soul into repairing that relationship. If you go into it half-heartedly, you are not going to succeed, which isn't fair to either you or your partner. Therefore, what you want to do is focus on your partner for a period of time and nobody else (not even friends) so that you can determine if things are going to work out or not.
Finally, you are going to need to communicate with your partner. Communicating does not mean yelling or screaming at your partner, it means talking to them and letting them know what is wrong and how things make you feel. Communicating also means that you have to listen to what they have to say. When communicating with your partner it is important to not place blame on either party because chances are good that if you are unhappy they are too, so the two of you can work together to get the problem solved.