Should you be single for a while?
A lot of times we feel compelled to be in a relationship. We feel like it is part of being whole. So, we jump from on person to the other. The following are some of the advantages of being single. So, look at these and then ask yourself if you should maybe be single for a while.
If you are single, you only have one set of relatives. Okay, so for some this is a huge advantage, for others not as big of a deal, but no matter who you are, a few less relatives can make living a whole lot easier. Most people find that relatives think they can say and do anything because they are related. So, stay single and have far fewer relatives.
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No nagging. There are ups to relationships, that is for sure, however, who likes nagging? If you are not in a relationship, you won't have someone nagging you to pick your socks up, put the cap on the toothpaste, the toilet seat down, etc. A single person can have clothes wherever they like, toothpaste how they want, etc. and no questions asked.
When you are single, you have your own money. You can buy that new game or go to that movie without someone asking you if you spent your money wisely. You can save, neglect saving, etc. You get to choose how you spend your money, and if you choose to blow a whole week of pay taking someone out to dinner, it is a sweet thing, not a waste.
You can meet anybody without any guilt. This means you can meet people for the first time, like pick up on people without the guilt or strings. It also means you can meet up with people and do what you want. For example, you can go to the club with your girls, or play poker with the boys, and there is no one to tell you no, or who you should and should not be hanging out with. No one to say who is good for you and who isn't. You decide!
Being single means being able to kiss who you want with no guilt about cheating. Have you ever met someone irresistible but could do nothing about it because you were in a relationship? When you are single you get to have some freedoms that are not available when you are otherwise engaged. You get the guilt free life because there is not someone there to give you the guilt trip.
While there are advantages to being in a relationship, and most people want to end up in one, there are also advantages to the single life. So, next time you break up, instead of jumping right back into a relationship, consider the above mentioned advantages. Try the single life for a while, and see if you don't find it somewhat to your liking. If you have had someone for a long time it can be difficult to be single, but you have to try it for a while. Soon you will find that the freedoms it provides are a lot of fun, and that it allows you to not only have some time for yourself, but to also rediscover yourself, find out what you like, who you like, etc. Often times in a relationship you start to morph into each other, and like all the same things. Being single is a good way to reestablish your identity.
