Single vs. Married Friends

As you get older, the dynamics of friendship changes. Friends are single or in a relationship. Some friends get married. You may be single or married and have friends on the opposite side of the relationship pool. Once babies are born the friend relationships changes even more. Married friends are heavily involved in their own lives while single friends are still looking for someone to share with. How do you keep your friends close through relationship changes from single to married? Here are some tips to help you get through the tough changes.
Tip #1: Stay Interested.
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Tip #2: Don't Apologize
Just because you're married or just because you are single doesn't make you boring to the opposite. A single life is full of fun and adventure and so is a married life. Don't apologize for being who you are. If you're married your single friends will still like to hang out with you. If you're single, your married friends still want you to mix it up in their lives. You don't have to be boring, and you weren't when you became friends, so don't let that change. Don't ever apologize for the change in relationship. If you aren't willing to be dynamic, your friendships with the others won't last. Relationships change, that's what makes them so great.
Tip #3: Take Time.
Just because you're married (or single) doesn't mean your single friends (or married ones) don't want to hang out with you. Take time together. Do the girl or guy night out. If you're married, host single parties at your home or extend specific invitations for them to come over, even if it's just to hang out and do nothing. The aren't doing anything anyway if all their friends are married. If you're single, host a married gaming night or invite yourself over to just take time with the people who mean a lot to you. Relationship status had nothing to do with your friendship to begin with so don't allow it to influence the time you spend together now. It is true that married people generally don't spend as much time with their friends as with their spouse, but when you are in a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, do you really spend a ton of time with anyone else? I don't think so. Take time with your friends and be there for them regardless of their relationship status.
