The Dos and Don'ts of a long distance relationship
Every relationship is hard, but they can get harder when you need to work at your relationship from a long distance. Being in two different places will make it harder for you to physically connect with one another, but you can still connect with each other emotionally. This article will provide you with a guide to some of the "do's" and "don'ts" of a long distance relationship:
Starting with the Do's you need to make time to talk to your partner. Since you aren't in the same room, it will be harder to make time to talk to them. If possible, set aside a specific time each night to talk to your partner when you are away. This is a great way to get into a routine for both of you so you can adjust your schedule accordingly. Communication is essential in a long distance relationship. Try using a video messaging system to talk to one another. This is a fun way to see what your spouse is doing while you are talking, plus you get to see them and that can really uplift your spirits.
A great way to find time to talk to your spouse and let them know you care is to send them a daily email or talk to them via text messaging. Just let them know how much you care for them and how much they mean to you. A simple text message reminder of this can really brighten their day.
Make plans for when you will be together. It is important to have something to look forward to when the time comes for you to be together again. You don't even need to leave the house, but plan a romantic evening for when your partner returns home. Try to surprise them with a romantic evening or a night out when they are back, it's a great way to help them have something to look forward to when they have to go back.
Try to find things to talk about. Relationships are built when 2 people can come together and share similar interests and hobbies. If the conversation moves to the type of weather you are having, you defiantly have a relationship problem unless you are a meteorologist! Ask your spouse some questions about the types of things they like to do and pretend like you are dating again. Often you will both learn new things about your lover and yourself.
Yes a long distance relationship is hard, but you will only make it worse if you do things that make your spouse question your faithfulness. Never, ever put yourself in a compromising position that will hurt your spouse. Even having one of your friends (of the opposite) sex over for dinner can raise questions in your spouses eyes. Do not find a "replacement" for your spouse when they are away, this is the worst thing you can do and you will most likely drift apart from one another quickly.
Be careful about becoming jealous or suspicious. These emotions can destroy a strong relationship. Try to control your emotions and do not question your spouse every time they go out with their friends in their new city. If you are that worried, move there and be close to them again.
Never get lazy or have the "I don't care" attitude. When you do this, your spouse will assume you do not love them anymore and this can cause them to do stupid things like have an affair. You need to be the one to call and tell them that you love them. Show them that you care, don't just assume that they know.