Things you must have to flirt successfully
Flirting has been around since the dawn of time. Both men and women use flirting to communicate both interest and desire. However the most successful flirts have certain attributes that enable them to carry off their flirting effortlessly. So if you want to learn how to flirt or simply improve your flirting skills here are some things you must have to flirt successfully-
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- Attitude-It is important to keep in mind that if you don't have it, you can't flaunt it. The best flirts are risk takers who have an unshakable confidence. This attitude seems to almost enter the room before they do and draws people to them as they subconsciously send out the message, "I am a great person and you should get to know me."
- Believability-Before you get carried away with the attitude should keep understand that you have to believe you are a great catch or no one else will. If you do not think you are worth it, you have lost the game before it has even begun. Remember that believability comes from knowing who you really are.
- Humor-This is definitely a must have. One of the core elements of any relationship is the ability to make the other person laugh; be it "at" or "with" you. Think about the people who you feel are the most fun-generally they are the funniest. The key here though is to communicate the humor that reflects who you are do not try to copy someone Else's.
- Have Fun-Nothing says "comfortable" like a flirt who is willing to "let down their hair" and be spontaneous and goofy. It goes back to having that sense of humor. Keep in mind that someone who can have fun can be in the middle of a crowd or one and one and you still want to hang out with them.
- Assertiveness-To be a successful flirt you must be able to approach someone and start a conversation. Keep in mind that you do not have to be a male to make the first move. Women can make the first move and many men even welcome this.
- Sincerity-If someone is truly interested in you, they will want you to feel comfortable being the "real you." You should not be afraid to show a little vulnerability. Keep in mind that someone who is not sincere will be discovered as a fake quickly. The best flirts understand that being who they really are is the key to being able to flirt.
- Eye Contact-It is important to not stare the other person down but simply give them the attention and respect they deserve. Best of all direct eye contact also shows confidence! Studies have shown that people who give eye contact are much more trusted then those who do not.
- Accessorize-We do not mean with jewelry and matching shoes, (though looking good is important when flirting) but with conversation starters like dogs, a good book, or a signature scent that's bound to attract attention. See a popular movies, read a good book or go out to the trendy new restaurant so when the conversation comes around to you, you will have something to say.
- Approachability-Keep in mind that nobody likes an ice-queen, or king for that matter. If this is difficult you will need to force yourself to let your guard down and you will then make yourself more approachable.
- Smile-This may actually be your most important attribute since not only does it shows you are enjoying their company, it's contagious, and it makes you one hundred times more attractive and approachable!
