First and foremost you have to go into marriage with your eyes closed shut. What does this mean? Well, when you are dating you should be looking for flaws, and dwelling on them, and either learning to accept them, or dump the person and move on. However, marriage is a different story. You have had your chance to pass on the goods, now you want to close your eyes, and love the person no matter what. You have to learn compassion and acceptance for your spouse.

No one is perfect, and even if they seem so, there is going to come a time when they do something to irritate you, disappoint you, or make you insane. So, if you want to keep the romance alive and strong, expect this. Quit lying to yourself and thinking the person is perfect, realize that your partner is human, and you will not have romantic notions that die when reality sets in.

It is also important that you realize your partner would love to be perfect, for you, and for themselves, so their downfalls, imperfections, etc. are not done to hurt you, so quit taking them personally.

The next thing if you want to have more romance in your marriage is to communicate your feelings loud and clear, and as regularly as possible. You have to tell your partner when you need some extra love, or when they hurt your feelings, or did something to make you upset. People are not mind readers, so do not expect your spouse to be. If you can get rid of negative emotions through communication, then you will be able to replace them with an environment of love, and this is conducive to romance.

Last, but not least, if you want to have more romance in your marriage, you have to show gratitude for your partner, every single day! People who feel loved and appreciated lead more romantic lives. So, start your marriage with the philosophy that you are going to live each day as if your spouse will be gone tomorrow, and make sure they know how much you love them, need them, and appreciate them. If you learn to adopt this attitude, you will see that romance will come flooding into your relationship. After all, if someone feels loved, needed, and appreciated, it is pretty easy to spark up some romance with them.

Bring more marriage romance into your life by being thoughtful. It may not sound romantic now, but sometimes just washing a sink full of dirty dishes without being asked is a highly romantic gesture. So, be sure you pay attention to the needs of your spouse and work to make your marriage as happy and romantic as possible.