Top 5 things that can wreck your relationship
In today's ultra busy world with many couples juggling two careers, parenthood and a host of other responsibilities the relationship between any two people can be left vulnerable to falling apart. To often our partner who should be our priority becomes simply a thing to do at the bottom of our list. If you are looking to build a positive relationship and avoid those things that can tear you apart here are some things that can wreck your relationship and ways to avoid them-
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- Neglecting Your Partner A primary function of any relationship is to provide companionship and to meet each other's needs. When work addiction, other activities or simply ignoring our partner becomes a habit we risk heavy damage to our relationship. When our availability is determined by our activities, interests or preoccupations we can wind up short-changing our partner. To avoid this you need to take an inventory and make adjustments in how you spend your time if this has become a problem. Make it a priority to treat your partner as the important person they are by spending enough quality time together to satisfy each of your requirements in this area and to maintain your connection.
- Depriving Your Partner:
Simply being there physically is not enough. Our relationships cannot thrive if we withdraw emotionally for extended periods of time. Relationship experts state that we must be aware of our partner and be willing to show how we feel both verbally and non-verbally. If you want to keep your relationship strong and vibrant you must express love though affection and caring behaviors. Small regular doses of intimacy will add vibrancy to your relationship and keep both partners actively engaged with each other. - Dishonesty & Betrayal:
This relationship wrecker involves lying and betrayal. The foundation of any relationship is trust. In every relationship trust is crucial and possible no more so than between partners. Cheating and lying will break down the basis for a relationship, and will often result in its demise. Problems of this nature are serious, and resolving it must be a top priority if the relationship is to survive. Couples counseling is highly recommended and can be very beneficial in order to facilitate the changes that are needed. - Abusing Your Partner:
Any aggressive communication between partners is simply unacceptable, especially if the abuse is getting physical. Physical or sexual abuse should be deal-breakers in a relationship, and should prompt a permanent separation. The abusive partner must get professional help to learn skills in anger management, in order to gain and consistently demonstrate better control over his or her emotions and behavior. Sadly statistics show that even if the help is sought and progress is made, the risk of recurrence remains high, so in most cases, the abused partner should not return to the relationship. Returning to an abusive relationship serves to reinforce the abusive behavior, leading to increased severity and frequency of subsequent abuse. The abused partner should also seek help, and work through issues that have potential to lead someone into another abusive relationship. Verbally blaming, accusing, and insulting between partners are less extreme forms of destructiveness, but are not acceptable either, and assertiveness training can provide the essential skills for healthy communication. - Scapegoating:
One of the most common problems between partners is the holding accountable of one partner for the others problems. Being held responsible for things that are out of your control is the most stressful of conditions, and that is what we do to our partner when we scapegoat them. Choose a more constructive path and rather than hurt the ones you love, do what it takes to meet the real problem head-on, as effectively as you can. If you are unsure of how to address a problem, the strong and mature thing to do is to ask for help and support from trusted sources.
