Answer: Calling the police is not going to do any good because with problems like domestic abuse is that without evidence, and without someone willing to report a problem, the police can not do anything. You reporting it is not enough if your friend won't admit to it. So, what can you do? You can be there for your friend, and help her get ready to admit the problem, and take steps to correct it. Of course, this is not an easy process, so make sure that you are sure.

Helping someone who is dealing with domestic abuse is not an easy task. There are first, three things that you need to know, and that you can help them accept. The first is that it is not their fault. Most people who suffer from domestic abuse have a bit of a complex about it being their fault. This is their abuser's strongest weapon over them. When they get mad and hit them, they say, "Why did you make me do that?" Anger and violence are all blamed on the actions of the victim. They say things like, "If you weren't so stupid..." "If you would just do what I asked..." the pattern is the same. Until your friend believes that her abuser is responsible for their own actions, she will never take action against them because she thinks it is her fault.

The second thing you need to help your friend realize is that she is not alone. Let her know that you are there for her without judgment. She can tell you anything. She can stay with you no questions asked. You are there for her, no matter what. Make sure she knows it. She may need someone just to care, some one who is not going to ask her questions. Most abusers try to isolate their victims and feel like they have no one else, and that if they leave, and stop the abuse, they will be all alone, helpless. So, give your friend the security of having someone she can rely on. Additionally, make sure she knows she is not the only one who is abused. It can be embarrassed to be the victim of domestic violence, so letting her know that it can happen to anyone may help her face it, and change it.

The last thing you need to do is help your friend feel comfortable with the idea that there is help available. You do not have to pressure her, but give her some time to adjust to the idea. Provide her with pamphlets on places she can go to for help, safe places to stay, and the like.

If your friend is not dealing with domestic violence, at least she will know that you cared enough to worry.