? One of the best things you can do for yourself and for you children is to teach them good manners. From the time your child is an infant, you can sit down with your spouse and discuss how you want to discipline your children. If you have a disciplined and respectful child, it will help you so much to feel love for them. Many people say that a child's disposition is predisposed and inherent, but the way a child is raised can strongly define their personality. If you teach your child respect, by being respectful to them, your relationship will be much better. In addition to your feelings, your child will be happier if they are disciplined. A life with rules is much more secure for a child than one where they are in charge. Discipline your child out of love, and you will feel more love for them in return.
? Another way to help your relationship with your children, is to allow them to help you do chores and work. If you wait on your children hand and foot, you'll be resentful of having to be a slave to them. You have the opportunity and the choice of giving them opportunities to do work and to help you. Including your children in the work that needs to be done around your home, helps them become better people and increases your love for them. Your children will feel this love and appreciation that you have for them because of how much their help means to you, and you will feel their love in return.
? One really important thing to help your relationship with your children is to genuinely listen to what they have to say. This is important to do for all of your children. Make sure that you're giving every child your full attention at least one time a day. To really feel your love, your children need to know that although you are busy, you still have time for each one of them individually. This can be particularly difficult if you are incredibly busy, and have more than one child, but it will make a world of difference in your relationship. Not only will your children learn how much you love them and care about what they do, because you are willing to give your limited time to them, but it will help you to know them better and cherish them more. Knowing what's going on in the lives of your children will help you incredibly. If you give them this time they need early on in their development, it will help them later in life. Your children will not most likely just stop talking to you the day they turn thirteen. It happens over time as communication breaks down. Don't stop talking to your children about their lives.
The parent and child relationship is one of the most important ones you will have in your lives. It is important to always be working on and improving this relationship. Your children crave the same closeness with you that you desire to have with them, and the more you put in to your relationship, the more you will get out of it.