There will inevitably be a person out there who wants to show that they are the best friend (or at least that they have the most money) and give a very extravagant or expensive gift. This can be motivated by many different reasons but can sometimes escalate into a situation that is uncomfortable for the guests of the wedding and for the couple themselves. One thing to keep in mind when you are preparing to give a wedding gift is that the gift is less important than the relationship you have with the couple and how they will receive the gif you give them. They understand more about you than many of the other wedding guests will and are likely to understand your gift whether large or small. Don't get caught up in the desire or competition to one-up someone else with the gifts, but rather try to give the gifts based on how you feel about the couple and to express your feelings about them.

One thing that you should really consider when you are buying gifts for a wedding isn't how much you will be spending or the fact that someone else may not be able to give a gift of the same caliber, but rather how much the gift, and the relationship behind it, will mean to your friends. The feelings you feel about them will outlast the triumphant feeling of giving the biggest or most expensive gift which can actually lead to remorse or loathing anyway. The gift can also mean something to you and should show a little piece of who you are and how much you care about the happy couple and their lives together.

Another thing that you should realize is that there is always going to be someone out there who could probably give a better gift than you and that each gift should be appreciated for what it is and who it was from. Just because you gave a nice gift doesn't deny others the right to give nice gifts as well, even ones that could be nicer than yours. Each giver and gift has a place in the heart of the wedding couple and should be given time of its own to be appreciated.

One of the best ways to avoid wedding gift one-uppence and the feelings that go along with it is to not even think that way. Many people have a difficult time, but it is possible and reasonable to give a gift with the expectation that they will appreciate it for what it is and for who you are without thinking of what other people may or may not give. It is also important to make sure that you don't stretch beyond what you are able to give for a wedding gift especially if you are having financial trouble. True friends will certainly understand this and will not judge you based on how much money you spent on their gift. While the saying "it's the thought that counts" may not be the whole story, it certainly is important and most people can see a little deeper into why you gave what you did.