And the research about viewing sex videos as a married couple says . . . that it depends. Whether or not viewing sex videos together is a good idea depends entirely on the two of you, and what you are comfortable with. Many times, experts recommend watching sex videos together as a way to increase your libido and spice up your sex life. It can be a good way to get to know each other better, and also to have more fun in your marriage. It can help you get ideas for your own sex life, and watching sex videos together can really help set the mood for some goings-on later in the evening. Plenty of couples light the candles, bring out the romantic food, and continue the evening by putting on a rather spicy movie. But this kind of behavior is for couples where both members of the relationship feel comfortable with the movies. And that might not always be the case.

Many women and men can also feel somewhat insecure and threatened by sex videos. You're watching an incredibly sexual couple do rather amazing things; how can you ever live up to that in your own life? You may also feel uncomfortable with your spouse watching members of the opposite sex in such movies, and you might start to feel insecure about the entire situation. If this is true for you or for your spouse, then you need to talk about it. Either you can work on your own insecurities, with the loving help of your spouse, or the two of you can decide not to watch sexy videos together and to make your sex life exciting in other ways, like maybe role playing.

Another possibility is that one of the two of you, or maybe both of you, is uncomfortable watching sex videos on moral grounds. If this is true of either of you in the marriage, then you should not push yourself or the other person to do something that you are not comfortable with. Perhaps you prefer that your spouse watches sex videos on their own, or simply not watch them at all. Watching sex videos as a married couple is something that you need to communicate about openly, both if you want to watch them together or if you'd rather not.

Remember, when considering whether to watch sex videos as a married couple, that the key to a successful marriage is open communication. Be honest and frank about what you want and what you need to be satisfied. At the same time, be sincerely concerned with what your spouse is feeling and what he or she wants. While many couples choose not to watch sex videos together, a fair number find that it brings them closer together and improves their sex life. But if one member of your marriage is uncomfortable and threatened by sex videos, then watching them together will only have a negative effect on your relationship. So what does the research say? Do what you and your spouse feel most comfortable with, and what will help you improve and keep your sex life exciting and interesting.