What is most important in a relationship?
There is a lot of debate between the factors that are most important in a relationship. Some would say that dependability is the most important factor. Others feel like compatibility is the biggest factor. Some believe that fun and the ability to have fun is the most important part of a relationship. Others say passion! What do you say? That is the point. Humans are complex beings, and while all of these factors are important and play a role in relationships, the ones that matter most are completely dependant on the person.
What factors matter most to you? Could you be in a long-term committed relationship with someone based on compatibility alone? Can you see yourself being in a passionate relationship for the long term? To make a relationship work in the long run, you can't just find the person with the right factors, you have to find the person who thinks the factors you have are the right ones for them as well. It is a two way street, and you have to be worthy of the characteristics you want for yourself. It is easy to make a laundry list of the things you want in a relationship. You just have to be able to work for it, and commit to making it work.
So, let's take a look at the various aspects of relationships: Commitment is an important part of the relationship web because it is what allows you to put forth trust, and to receive it in return. Dependability is what allows you to get up each morning with a smile on your face, because you know what that they are going to be there to hang out with, go out with, cry to, laugh with, etc. Fun is an essential part of a relationship because life can stink sometimes, and life does stink sometimes, so you need someone that can help you have fun, and forget about all of the garbage. Passion is important because it is what gives you the butterflies, and makes you happy to come home at night.
The thing you have to realize is that for you, dependability might mean far more than passion. It is possible you are not a passion filled person, but what leaves you feeling warm and comfortable at night is knowing that your person will be there in the morning. Maybe fun and laughter mean the most to you. The things that are the most important things in a relationship are the things that help you forget all of the bad parts of the world, and find happiness in being. If you are the right person, you will find the right person. You can't expect all of the best qualities, and attributes to be in your relationship unless you are willing to take the time to develop them in yourself.