What she means when she says she doesn't care
Women say, "I do not care." all of the time, but that is usually not what she really means. So, what does she mean when she says she doesn't care? The following are the common meanings behind the phrase "I don't care.":
1. I am too tired to decide.
Often times the woman in your life is balancing children, home, laundry, cooking, work, and school, and so when you ask her to make a decision she would rather pass the buck because she is tired. So, to best do this, she says, "I don't care." However, what she should say is, "I have been busy all day doing a million things, why don't you man up and just decide so I do not have to?"
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2. You have asked me over and over, so clearly you have an agenda different from mine, so let's just do what you want to do.
Sometimes she will say, "I do not care" because you have asked her the same question so many times, and while she originally gave you an honest response, you did not listen. To her this says that you know what you want to do, but you want her to want it to. Instead of lying and saying she wants what you want, she will lie and say does not care. What she should say is, " I want this, but you don't so, you just need to decide because you are not listening to my input?"
3. It really makes no difference what I think, so why should I even respond?
In this instance she says she does not care because she knows that even if she had an opinion on the subject, the outcome would be the same. Like, when you go to the movies, and you want to see a certain movie, even if she would rather see something different, the two of you nine times out of ten see what you want. So, instead of making you feel bad because she does not want what you want, she acts like it does not matter to her. Reality is that the movie choice does matter, but she would rather make you happy.
4. I really do not care.
Sometimes, it is true, she does not care. For example, if you ask her if she would prefer fries or mashed potatoes. There will be times both sound good, so she does not care which one she is served. These cases are rare, and are usually prefaced with an explanation of why she does not care. That is how you can know if she is being honest.
5. Both sound good.
Sometimes she will say she does not care when both sound good. Now this seems the same as the above, but it isn't. When she is offered fries or mashed potatoes she may not care because both the both sound good, but if you throw in twice baked, she will care, she won't care which of the first two, but she will care about the second. So, when she really does not care it is because all options are equally good or bad, when both sound good, it means that with present options, either would be satisfying in different ways. However, she would care if another, less desirable option presented itself.
6. I would rather do neither.
Occasionally she will say she does not care because she does not want to do either. This is like the both sound good but in reverse. She does not want to spoil things, but neither option is going to really make her happy. She should say, "I would rather do neither, is there something else we can do?" However, in most cases she loves you too much!
7. I am frustrated and don't want to talk about it.
A lot of times a woman will say she does not care simply because she is angry, and if she admits it, you will have to talk about it. It is a way to end conversation without bringing up her anger. If you ask her something she really should care about, and she says she doesn't, then she is probably mad.
8. I do not want to be responsible if things do not go as planned.
I do not care means that when you go to a horrible movie, or the activity, meal, etc. turns out to be a bust, then she does not take the blame because she did not pick it. The I don't care is a non-committal. It is the perfect way to absolve yourself of responsibility, and she will use it.
