When family ties are stressed by distance
It is no longer uncommon for families to be spread literally around the world. Where at one time family members rarely moved out of the same town (and sometimes lived on the same block) today families can find themselves with members of their clan in many different countries. This distance can create stress as family members who are unable to see each other frequently can find themselves drifting apart. These family ties can be further stressed by a lack of communication that can lead to misunderstanding or simply a growing emotional distance. But there are steps that you can take to make sure that you and your far-flung family members remain close. Here is what you can do when family ties are stressed by distance-
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- Use the available technology-It may not be exactly the same as being there but it comes close. With web-cams, cell phones with pictures and computer calling family members can view each other up close and personal from different sides of the world. If you and your family members are to far apart to visit often take advantage of the technology that can make you much closer. Many parents are even giving their far flung children web cams and internet access for Christmas gifts as an attempt to allow family members to easily remain in touch.
- Do not overlook the old fashioned way of keeping in touch-Even with all of the available technology that can give you instant access to faraway family there is nothing that can replace a family newsletter. Many families are using this type of old-fashioned letter writing to keep everyone up to date on what is happening throughout the family. It can work one of two ways. One person can be the newsletter director (this can be a rotating position) and each family member writes an update of what they are doing and sends it to them. This can be done monthly, bi-annually or annually (whatever works for your family). The newsletter director then puts all of the letters together a family newsletter and sends it on to everyone else. Or you can have a rotating family newsletter that begins with one person writing an update and then that person sends it on to someone else (this works well with email) once everyone has written something then a complete copy can be sent to all family members. This allows everyone to feel much more connected to their family. In addition making a family calendar can be another way for family members to remain connected. Simple online programs can guide you through making a family photo calendar that includes everyone birthdays, anniversaries and other special dates that need remembering. This way family members can know when it is really important to reach out.
- Plan a family reunion. When you think of a family reunion you may be thinking of multi-generational families coming together once a year. This can also work with your immediate family. If you, your parents and siblings all live in different places then it is important to try and come together at least once a year. Many families are finding that it works well to have one family "host" the reunion in their city. This way one family gets to really show off where they live (allowing family members to connect with them) and every family gets a chance to save on the cost of travel. Do not worry too much about having enough beds (tents in the backyard can work for cousins), remember that it is the time that you spend together that will really strength your family ties.
