1. When it is an energy drainer. If you have a relationship with a friend or lover that leaves you feeling physically exhausted after each encounter, and not in a good way, then it is probably time to end the relationship. There are some relationships that are energy drainers. You have to be so careful not to do or say the wrong thing, that you leave the encounter feeling run over by a bus. This is no way to have a relationship. Relationships are not always fun and perfect, but they certainly shouldn't leave you feeling worn out. If the burden of their problems, drama, or requirements for friendship or relationship are leaving your energy reserves dry, then cut them lose. They are not worth it. Or, if they are, figure out what needs to change so that you do not need a nap after you see them.

2. When it is a drama starter. A relationship that is always full of drama is a relationship better left on the shelf. Everyone knows this kind of relationship. It is the kind where you can't talk to the person for fear that something you say will be repeated or turned around and turned into drama. You can't call them for fear that they will wonder about your ulterior motives. You can't invite them or not invite them because of other people who will be there. The people in your life that always have drama surrounding them, that aren't happy if there isn't gossip, a fight, or something else are simply not good relationships to have. Sure, some people thrive on drama, but the fact is, the stress and fall out from a drama starter relationship is not good for your health, or your other relationships, so it is best left.

3. When it is a put downer. Have you ever had a relationship with someone that always leaves you feeling bad about yourself? And, not because you are insecure, but because of what they say or do. Sometimes there are people who only feel good about someone when the person does not feel good about themselves. They may give backward compliments such as, "You could be really pretty, if you knew how to tweeze your eyebrows." Or maybe they just make you doubt yourself or your abilities with unnecessary pauses, or sighs, or skeptical looks, etc. If you are leaving encounters with the person feeling down on yourself, the world, etc. then this is an unhealthy relationship, and one that should probably be avoided.

Not all relationships are healthy, and it is important to choose your relationships wisely, you do not want to waste your time or energies on someone who does not appreciate you, help you be the best person you can be, etc. Do not settle for friends, make good ones.