Denying your feelings of anger and resentment is not going to be easy to do; you shouldn't actually deny those feelings because everybody is entitled to feel a certain way. Instead of trying to deny those feelings, you should use responsible methods for dealing with the anger and resentment that you feel. Dealing with the anger and resentment is the best way to stop threatening family relationships.

In order to deal with resentments that we are having which can threaten our family relationships we are going to need to understand how and what the other person is feeling, but we will also need to forgive both ourselves and the other person involved. Before you can even begin to understand how the other person is feeling you are going to need to gain some insight into yourself.

Here are the steps that you will need to follow to deal with resentments that are threatening family relationships.

Step one:
Here you need to find peace within yourself. Before you can begin to understand how other people feel you need to make peace with yourself, so your mind is open towards other possibilities. When your mind is filled with random thoughts of pain and resentment, it is nearly impossible to overcome any feelings that you are having. By gaining clarity in your mind you are allowing your mind to create space for alternative possibilities and healing. You can gain clarity by expressing your emotions, using focused attention to find peace, or by reminding yourself that you are in control of your thoughts and actions.

Step two:
You will now need to look objectively at the situation for what the situation is. You need to see if you can figure out what is causing your family member act the way they are acting. Many times once you have figured out what is going on you will see that it is not an attack on you, it is simply something your family member is doing to protect him or herself. By understanding what is going on with your family members you can gain perspective into their position, which can help you learn something valuable that can be used in the future. To help understand what your family member is going through you need to accept the fact that it is okay for them to have negative thoughts and feelings, but you also need to realize that in most cases these painful feelings are not directed at you personally.

Step three:
You will need to forgive your family members for what they have done to cause you pain. Forgiving them is not something that can be done quickly, but through understanding why they are, acting the way they are you will soon be able to forgive them, which will allow you to move on with your life. In order to forgive somebody first you will need to forgive yourself for the thoughts of resentment that you had. After you have forgiven yourself, you are ready to let go of the anger and resentment that you had towards that person so you can forgive them.