Reason 2: Learn appropriate gender roles. With the media, and neighbors, and friends, children can get very confused about gender roles. They see homosexual relationships, and women dressing like men, and men dressing like women. This can cause identity crisis in youth, and can cause them to be confused about their present and future gender roles. However, by displaying to them a healthy relationship where the two spouses love and respect each other, and make it known to their children, they learn how to function, and act, as well as what is expected in their particular gender role.

Reason 3: Witness healthy relationships. It is important to show your children that you love your spouse because it shows your children how healthy your relationship is. Too many young adults are entering into sexual relationships, having intercourse, and getting pregnant at 15, 16, etc. This often stems from not learning how to have healthy relationships at home. Parent's who show their children they love and respect one another, teach their children that they do not have to have sex to have love, and that there are other and more appropriate ways to express love. Healthy relationships witnessed often lead to healthy relationships lived. So, show your children that you love your spouse, and you will help them to have a more healthy relationship.

Reason 4: Learn how to respect the opposite gender. Let's face it, even with women's rights, and the increased rights of men and women, etc. in the workplace etc. there are still many men who do not respect women. Many women do not respect men either. Men may look at women as a plaything, something to have when they want, and leave when they don't. Women may look at men as pigs, slobs, and half wits. By showing your children that you love your spouse, you do not reinforce poor gender stereotypes. You instead show your child that you are equals, that you love and respect one another, and that they should love and respect the opposite gender as well. This helps your daughter to learn that being bossed around, or used as arm candy is inappropriate, and that they should not do that to their future husbands either. It teaches your sons to respect women, treat them with equality, kindness, and to never let one overrun them, but not try to do that themselves.

Showing your children you love your spouse is very important. If for no other reason, show your children you love your spouse so that they can feel safe and secure in their home life. Never talk ill of your spouse, and never let your children hear you and your spouse argue.