Working through the kinks in friendship, tips and tricks

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It's inevitable that many friendships will end up going through some rough patches. Kinks in a friendship seem to happen more the longer the friendship lasts. Friendships that span years can perhaps have the most kinks because of the changes your own life takes.

The best tip or trick for working through the kinks in a friendship is to communicate. Don't just walk off and throw away the friendship. Try to talk through what is bothering either one of you. Keep things open and honest. If this is a long lasting friendship you need to keep the lines of communication open. Try everything you can to keep the friendship by working through some of the kinks.

Friendships can and will change throughout the years because your life changes too. If a marriage or the beginning of a family is one of the kinks in your friendship you can work through those small kinks. Take some time to include your old friend into your new lifestyle if you have moved on with your life. If it is your friend that got married or started a family try not to feel left behind yourself. Understand that your friends' life may be a little different but they still care about you and need you to be part of their life. No matter what side you are on you should let your friend know how you feel in order to work out this kink in the friendship.

Another tip or trick for working through the kinks in a friendship is to listen. Maybe your friend is going through a hard time and just needs someone to listen. Newer friendships need listening too. Listening is how you find out who the other person is any of their hopes and dreams. Listening to your friend can help you work through the kinks in the friendship because it reiterates to your friend how important they are to you.

Don't judge your friend when you are trying to work through the kinks in a friendship. This is perhaps one of the best tips or tricks for working on kinks in any relationship. What is a good idea and fit for your lifestyle may not be the best fit for your friends' lifestyle. Let your friend find their own way even if it is a different path from the one you would choose. Don't judge their choices but help them through some of them.

Tips and tricks for working through the kinks in a friendship will also include that you are supportive of your friends. Support their hopes and dreams and help them attain those goals. If they are making poor choices let them know how you feel. Support your friend through the hard times instead of turning your back. Turning your back on your friend may end up creating more of a rift than a kink.

To work through the kinks in any friendship you must both want to work through those kinks. You will both need to talk over the problems and come up with possible resolutions. Even if the only resolution is to apologize and move forward with the friendship you are still working through the kinks. Listen to your friend and what they may need out of the friendship or why they feel that there is a kink in the friendship. Be supportive of your friends when they need the extra help and don't judge them when they may make decisions that you don't like. The best tip or trick for working out the kinks in a friendship is to never give up unless the friendship is becoming unhealthy for you.

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