Building an Archaeological Garden in Your Backyard

If you are looking for something new and interesting for your child, you may want to build them an archaeological garden in your backyard. An archaeological garden is a pit designed to look like an archaeological dig site. You can fill the inside of the pit with faux artifacts like coins or broken pottery to give your child something to dig for. Planting ivy or other growing vines on the outside will give the site an ancient atmosphere. Just make sure your garden and your trees have no infestation of harmful insects that might bite your kids and cause them illness. You can request for tree trimming and inspection from your local tree services so they can check on schedule, just for safety purposes. I know it’s part of nature and we encourage our kids to love nature by this activity. Just some minor precautions to be aware of, before the real fun starts. 🙂

Here is a quick guide to building your own backyard archaeological garden:

Install the support poles

First, lay out the weed barrier fabric over the site you have chosen for your archaeological garden. This fabric will choke off the grass and weeds while still allowing for drainage. Set your poles on top of the weed barrier, making a square. This will be the outline of the pit for your archaeological garden. To create the supports for your archaeological pit, dig a small hole at each corner. Set an upright pole in the hole and fill with quick-drying cement to hold the pole in place.

Build up the pit’s walls

Once the cement has dried and the upright poles of your archaeological garden are set, you need to build up the pit’s wall. Set the horizontal poles in place by bolting them onto the upright support poles. Stack these horizontal poles as high as you wish, but at least two poles works best. If you build the archaeological pit very high, you should also add a step stool or stairs so your child can get in and out easily.

Hang the ivy

Affix a sturdy steel rope to the tops of the upright support poles. You will be planting ivy that will grow up the upright poles and onto the ropes to give your archaeological garden more of an ancient ruins look. Be sure that the rope does not hang low enough that it will trap your child. You may want to leave the rope off of one of the side so there is an clear entrance for children.

Fill in the pit

Now you can fill the inside of your archaeological garden with some “treasures” for your child to find. Old coins, small toys, or broken pieces of pottery work well. Be sure that any sharp edges have been filed down if you choose to use broken items of pottery or ceramics. Fill in the pit with sand, layering in more of your archaeological “treasures” every so often. Attach some plastic hooks on the support holes and hang a plastic collection tray and sieve for your child to use as their archaeological tools.

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Children Not Wholesale: Why You Should Not Compare One to Another

Children can be the joy of your life but raising them is anything but easy. Stress and lack of sleep can be leading factors why you can do or say things that you shouldn’t do. One of those things is comparing children to one another.

When you compare children to one another, several things occur:

Toxic Relationships

Siblings are supposed to be there for each other. If you start comparing them to each other, feelings of resentment will start to fester and ruin their relationship. What parents do not realize is that the feelings of inadequacy or inferiority to a sibling can stain the relationship for the rest of their lives.

Rather than having siblings that are supposed to look out for each other when the parents are gone, you will have adults who harbor resentment toward each other. Not exactly ideal for a loving relationship!

Self-Esteem Issues

Children are still growing. They are discovering who they are—what they like and what they are good at. They will not have a chance to do that if at every opportunity they are compared with a more successful sibling.

Confidence is needed to be successful in life. If you clip that by comparing them, you effectively contribute potentially damaged individuals to society.

Distance from Parent


When you start comparing your kids to each other, they can feel that you favor one sibling over them. This can drive a wedge between you and the child. If a child feels that they cannot rely or count on their parent for support that is hardly conducive to a well-adjusted individual.

You may be in charge now but you won’t be forever. Children might be a bit more understanding while they are young. They might even be inclined to give you numerous chances. However, once their feelings have hardened against you, not much will soften them toward you again.

Always Remember

Children are not an extension of you. Children are not a second chance for you to live the way you wanted to. Children are their own persons with their own plans, dreams, and aspirations. It is your job as a parent to help them realize who they want to be. You do not do that by comparing them to one another.

Give them a role model to aspire to—an elder rather than a sibling or a cousin. You can even use a famous person as a role model. No flower grows by being kept in the shade. It is needs sunlight. So what better ways can you inspire your child to do better?

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Love In the Age of Social Media: What Is Healthy and What Is Not?

Pretty much everyone has social media. In the age where the norm is to share so much information about our daily lives, relationships are pretty much put on a stage. This can put a lot of strain on relationships—even when you don’t mean to do so. In light of this, we want to take a chance to discuss healthy vs. unhealthy social media habits when it comes to relationships.

Healthy

When your relationship is going to be online, it is important to maintain healthy habits like:

Tasteful posts

Is it your anniversary and you want to make a gushy post? There’s no problem with that—as long as you keep the intimate details of your relationship off the status. There is no issue with being sweet online—just keep the massive PDA to yourselves.

Mindful Tagging

Social media is a place where it is easy to find things that are in line with the interests of yourself or your partner. It is completely okay and healthy to engage in things that you find interesting or sharing those things with your partner. Social media is first and foremost a sharing platform.

Unhealthy

Unhealthy habits can sneak up on you like:

Ranting

It can be quite easy to get carried away by your emotions when you are in a relationship. It’s easy to feel like you are the aggrieved party and want everyone to know that you are clearly the victim in a scenario or a problem. However, this paints a pretty grim portrait of your partner AND yourself.

You now look like a person that cannot keep personal issues between the necessary parties. It also implies that you do not hesitate to hang your partner out to dry when a bump (no matter how small or large) comes up.

Apologies

Hear us out. When you or your partner errs, there must be apologies to be made, yes. However, these are better served privately. It can put unnecessary pressure on the one being apologized to. Think about it. If you were hurting about something and you go online and see your wall littered with posts from your significant other saying how sorry they were along with the comments of other people.

It takes away the sincerity of the apology.

Always Remember

A relationship is between two people—not two people and each other’s friend list. It can be really tempting to share something because being validated is something that a lot of us crave—especially when we are feeling slighted or feeling upset.

When you are presently in a relationship—or even if you aren’t, it will serve you well to learn about the line between healthy and unhealthy relationship habits on social media. Which bad habits have you been guilty of?

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